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“Sometimes bad things have to happen before good things can.”

– Becca Fitzpatrick

https://psychologycompass.com/blog/point-of-view/

In spite of bad circumstances, good things may emerge. For example, the recent COVID-19 pandemic did actually produce some positive results for some people. For others, not so much. I think this concept requires a greater understanding of the bigger picture of how the pandemic has brought some level of clarity, meaning and purpose into many individuals’ lives, in spite of having affected so many in a negative way. Some people lost their lives, while others more “fortunate” lost their businesses, jobs, homes and friends. Others made vast amounts of income by acting upon opportunities. This leads me back to the dichotomy of yin and yang, that is found in almost all things. In order to appreciate the “good” in anything, we need to also see the “bad” in order to understand the contrast. While some people were quite traumatized by lockdowns, mandates, isolation, job loss and the illness itself, others thrived while working from home and around their family and loved ones. Some used this time to re-invent themselves, cook and eat healthier at home, exercise more and other positive events and realizations that might have never come about.

Conversely some people ate less healthy, exercised less, and acquired mental ailments of depression, anxiety, and others. I bring this back to the realization that I have discussed before that everyone perceives stress, pain, suffering and trauma differently in relation to their own availability of coping mechanisms. I think it takes a certain level of wisdom to be able to see the good and bad in all things, while also choosing to see the good in people in spite of their attempts to prove otherwise. The COVID-19 pandemic gave many more than ample opportunities to tone their personal social skills while trying to keep their relative stressors in check. There will almost always be good and bad in all things. It is our choice how we choose to see things and act upon them accordingly.

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I don’t believe that it is possible to not have any stressors, whether from mental circumstances or acute/chronic pain, as these are part of life. Good stress (eustress) and bad stress (distress) are what offers us contrast between suffering and happiness (Zabat-Zinn, pg. 303, 2013). It is highly important that we all have a means to minimize or release our inner suffering from internal and external stressors. Yoga and other meditative breathing practices that engage the mind and body are truly profound in being able to not only help reduce pain in the body through strengthening and stretching it, but also simultaneously modulate the nervous system and relative responses to that pain.

Physical pain in our bodies can cause not only the regional discomfort, but also associated emotional pain. I am certain that almost everyone has experienced some type of physical injury, where shortly afterwards they may not be the most pleasant person to be around. In contrast, when we exercise, we often get sore muscles and some relative pain and/or discomfort. So, in both cases of injury and exercise, we can only do so much to alleviate the physical pain. However, we can make a decision as to how much emotional suffering we attach to our physical pain. As Jon Kabat-Zinn states that we can realize that we often have a range of options for managing physical pain, even very intense pain, other than only being automatically overwhelmed by the pain (Zabat-Zinn, pg. 361, 2013).

As life experience accumulates, we are able to better determine what pain in our body is telling us, whether it is a response to physical trauma, disease, illness, and other circumstances such as work and exercise. I think as we age, most people will have quite a buffet of physical pains that will be experienced. I personally have dealt with lower back pain off and on for many years. In spite of my discomfort, I usually would not share this with others around me preferring to keep my ailments and relative issues to myself (aversion). In hindsight, keeping my pain to myself probably manifested into some level of mental stress. I do think though, that whatever emotional pain from physical stressor I may have had, it was possibly cancelled out or minimized from the joy or sense of purpose from being with others at the time. Even though I had back pain, I would still be practicing sports and activities with my two kids. It is quite amazing what we can do and accomplish even with much pain, when we set our priorities and goals beyond ourselves.

Reference:

Kabat-Zinn, Jon. (2013) Full Catastrophe Living (Revised Edition) (p. 361). Random House Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.